Straight answers for parents of a teenager with a temper

Something happened, or something has been happening for a while, and you have ended up here at an hour you would rather be asleep.

Most of what you will find searching for this is written by somebody with a product. The pages about whether your teenager needs a residential programme are written by residential programmes. The pages about what happens in an anger management class are written by the people selling the class. The pages about school discipline are written by lawyers who would represent you.

None of them can afford to write the sentence that is true most of the time, which is that this is more ordinary than it feels and you probably do not need the thing you are being sold.

This site is written by one person who sells none of that. It answers the question in the first two sentences, then shows the working. Every figure names the source and the period it was measured over, every page says when its sources were last read, and where there is no reliable number, the page says that instead of inventing one.

It cannot tell you what is happening with your own child, and it never tries to.

Everything on this site

When It Is Actually Happening: The hole in the wall, the slammed door, the shouting, being hit by your own kid, and the teenager who is fine all day and detonates at four in the afternoon.; My Teenager Punched a Hole in the Wall When Your Teenager Hits You Why Is My Teen Only Angry at Home?What to Do While It Is Happening When Your Teenagers Fight Each Other
Trouble at School: What a suspension really does to your child's future, the first 48 hours after a fight, and what a school counsellor can actually do.; Does a Suspension Follow Them?Suspended for Fighting: The First 48 Hours In-School and Out-of-School Suspension What a School Counsellor Can and Cannot Do When a Comment Becomes a Threat Assessment Questions to Ask the School
Damage and Consequences: Who pays for the broken thing, how to set up a repayment that actually sticks, and what to do when grounding has stopped working.; Should They Pay for What They Broke?Making a Repayment Actually Stick When Grounding Has Stopped Working Repayment Planner
Getting Help, and When You Need It: When professional help is genuinely warranted and when it is not, what a first appointment involves, and what anger management classes actually are before you pay for one.; Do You Actually Need Professional Help?What Happens at a First Appointment What Anger Management Classes Actually Are Court-Ordered Anger Management for a Minor Before You Pay for a Programme
What Is Actually True: The 90-second rule, the brain supposedly unfinished at 25, and the rest of what gets repeated about teenage anger, checked against the research.; The 90-Second Rule Is Not a Research Finding The Brain Is Not "Finished at 25"Does Anger Management Actually Work?Does Telling Them to Calm Down Make It Worse?Is This Amount of Anger Normal?